Jan 24, 2019
I recently heard that in life you are either a victim or victor. Before you chastise me, I am fully aware that things happen to all of us unexpectedly. Some truly horrific things happen to us and this is not what I am referencing here. I’m referring solely to a mindset. We’ve all met that person that is a perpetual victim. Nothing is their fault and the world is against them.
is subtle and yet is undeniably futile and disastrous. The victim mindset is void of culpability and responsibility for our circumstances and conditions. I’ve been in some really bad spots in life and I’ve come to realize, that each crummy circumstance I found myself in-I chauffeured myself. Not once was I forced. On occasion we can all make bad decisions regardless of our intent but it is how we react and rebound that defines our character. Those who blame others for the lack of success will not grow or succeed on a large scale in comparison to those who accept and learn from their errors.
A victim allows his success to be limited by external circumstances, people, or events. As long as we continue to choose a be a victim of our circumstances we will experience life as a struggle and others as a threat. I have witnessed these people and honestly, the suck the life right out of me. When they aren’t practicing victimhood, they are exercising the excuse game.
on the other hand allows you to gain control of your life, to shape your destiny, to fulfill your potential. In its purest form, accountability is simply taking ownership of actions and results. This works in our favor for our successes and failures. It is what makes growth possible. The fact of the matter is that successful people are accountable – and, accountability is a choice.
Not only should we choose to be the victor, we should eliminate the victim mentality from every aspect of our life. I have chosen to remove those who don’t share the same outlook so that my own standard is higher. After all, we are a product of the people we surround ourselves with.